I was at a gathering recently and as more people started to arrive at the party one woman that I know came in and immediately started saying how old she felt and how old she is and how she can’t eat this and she can’t eat that and how her body was betraying her … on and on … and on. All I could think was, “Get away from me please.”  It was so annoying. It seems people love to complain about (instead of celebrating) getting older. Particularly women (meanwhile, most men think they have it going on way after their expiration date … sigh). On top of complaining about their age, many women also stop being feminine and sexy (no shade but during my recent visit to France, I saw that French of all ages are committed to staying fly). I’m all for some good athleisure wear, but can the outfits at least match?!? I joke.

But seriously, I keep hearing women of a certain age talk about feeling invisible and saying that men don’t pay attention to them and that they are “too old” to “compete” online. I call bullshit. I say that because I see a lot of women out here not even trying anymore. I’m not saying that you have to be full glam at the grocery store … but why not look good no matter where you are going? Also, the new year is a good time to reassess many things … like your wardrobe. What clothes look good on you now? What is current? What needs updating? That also goes for your makeup. When was the last time you threw away old makeup? Refresh your makeup and refresh your look. And while we are at it – what about your hairstyle? Is your current style dated? If so, don’t be afraid to change it up. There are so many amazing styles and colors and cuts. And remember – all of this isn’t for someone else or to attract someone else, it’s not to try to look or be younger … it’s for you. It’s so that you feel good about you. In addition to the outside, make some changes on the inside. There are so many great meditation apps. Try a new exercise routine. Try a new sport. Explore a new hobby. Change it up. You will feel better about YOU. Step out and apply some pressure – get your sexy back! 

I’m sharing all of this so that you won’t be that woman walking into a party bemoaning your age (and letting everyone know about your dietary restrictions), instead you will enter said party feeling and looking amazing – no matter what your age. Let’s go girls. 😉

And for the lady at the party, I’m checking myself now … the next time I see her I’ll make it my business to build her up – we all could use a little more encouragement, and a lot less shade. :O